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Better To Have Tried And Failed

I’ve been having a wobbly week confidence-wise. It was particularly bad at the weekend and there was a lot of sleeplessness and some tears.

Since the day that I left the bank in 2013 to pursue teaching I’ve had people telling me how hard Hibernia is. I 100% know that they mean well. Most are trying to prepare me as I think it’s obvious to everyone that I have a tendency to take on a lot.

Rarely have I doubted myself but this week it got in on me. It could have been lack of sleep, Jodie starting creche or maybe because the start date is drawing near. Either way I went over and over it in my head for past few days until thankfully I remembered.

I remembered that I’ve been doing this hard stuff for a while now. Studying, motherhood, running my own business and sobriety. None of it has been easy and yet I’m still going. I also remembered that I have a of support, a lot of people cheering me on. However, most importantly I remembered that I might actually fail. That I might not be able for this and that it might get the better of my determined nature. But if it does then at least I’ve tried.

Sometimes we look at people who achieve things and we think “I wish I could do that” or worse “I could never do that”. We think that they have all of the answers and that they are in some way better or more special than us. I know that there are a lot of people who think that they could never do some of the things that I’ve done. I’m know because they tell me often in comments and messages. So this is a short post to say that even people who do hard stuff have the shakiest of shaky days (or weeks in my case). Nobody is confident all of the time and the bigger the risk the more likely you are to feel nervous or anxious. It doesn’t mean you can’t overcome these feelings and do it anyway. As they say better to have tried and failed…

Bríd

Time for a Break

I’m pretty sure that there are going to be a few readers thinking “told you so!” or “I was thinking this would happen” when they read this post. This post is about is something that was inevitable but in the same way that you can’t convince a person who hasn’t experienced the hell/joy of childbirth that they will get over it you also cannot properly communicate with a mother-of-one how different it is to be a mother-of-two. (Side note: If there are any expectant mothers-of-one reading this please, please understand that while I’m about to write about how utterly shattered and time-poor I am I have brought a lot of this on myself and my experience of two children is not necessarily going to be yours). I’m also not trying to blow my own trumpet by writing about how much I do or did. This is, I think, a cathartic way for me to convince myself that it’s ok to stop now for a little while.

At the end of this week (I’m writing this post on the last week of April) I’m going to be taking a break from my online courses for (at least) the summer months for a few reasons but the main one being that I am so f’ing exhausted. I’m not being the mother I thought I would be and even though I do realise that the mother I thought I would be before I actually became a mother doesn’t exist I’d still like to give myself a chance to be a bit more like her. Less snappy, more patient and hopefully a lot more fun. Since having Jodie I am wound so tight because there is always SO MUCH TO DO and when something goes wrong, even if it’s something small, it feels much bigger.

Frankie was born in July 2014 and from that time until this I have been just about every “type” of mother there is. I’m most definitely not using PC terms throughout this post so please don’t be offended by the ones I have used. I’ve been a self-employed “working mother” who went back to work when my first baby was six weeks old and my second was three weeks old. With Frankie it didn’t feel hard at all. He was such a good baby and I loved early motherhood. Year one of motherhood is a good year for me. Year two? Not so much. I had to go back because financially I hadn’t put myself in a position not to. With Jodie it was different. I felt every bit of having to work so soon after having her. Financially, by living a little more frugally,  I could have not worked (it would have entailed reeling in the coffee and cake trips a bit and not buying clothes that i’ll never get to wear cos let’s face it where the hell am I going these days but it could and now it will be done) but I had built up this business that I absolutely loved and I had created a community of women who really wanted my help. Loving your children to bits but loving what you do is, I’m sure, something that many women can relate to. My business has been very good to me, particularly in the last six months, but I do feel like I’ve earned every cent I’ve made. There has quite literally been blood, sweat and tears.

Multitasking with a two-week-old Jodie

(You can tell by my face in this picture that I know this is madness)

I’ve also been a studying mother since Frankie was nine weeks old when I went back to college to finish my degree. For the first year of his life I would put him to bed and then hit the books until late into the night. Again it didn’t feel terribly hard in year one. He was an easy-going baby during the day and slept all night so I had the energy to do it. The shit hit the fan in year two though when he started walking, pulling all and sundry down around him and was waking at night with his teeth.

Each of these things have been part-time so I’ve also been a stay-at-home mother too. I have fantastic childcare 4 mornings a week and have a lot of help from my husband and family so I’m really lucky but there was no office and there were no office hours. My business has meant that I’ve had to be switched on all of the time (sending messages while I was in labour and answering queries while simultaneously breast feeding). And of course there’s Snapchat. I’ve shared a lot on Snapchat over the last year and for the most part I didn’t mind doing that. I’ve loved how sharing the early days of motherhood with Jodie helped other mothers who were also struggling. But it does take from my time with the kids (as well as involve me having to wash my face at the very least which can feel like an epic task some days!) and that doesn’t sit well with me. I’ve never liked the idea of Frankie seeing me talking to my phone and by the time his bedtime comes around I’m often too shattered to make sense. Social media in general is both a blessing and a curse. I love the part where I get to interact with other women and mothers online but I hate how false life has become because of it. It’s not reality or my reality at the very least. I want to be present in my life.

Not so sure I can keep going any more

Or do I? You see part of me has been avoiding being “just a mother”. Please don’t take that to mean that I don’t have massive respect for every mother who is “just a mother”. I think they are the mothers I have the most respect for because not having a job outside of the home (or upstairs in the home in my case) and having to be with them all of the time is so bloody hard and I think I’ve been afraid of the boredom that comes with that. Not the nothing-to-do type of boredom. Dear Jesus no. There is always, always SO MUCH TO DO (which I may have mentioned before) even without the work and the study. No it’s the this-is-mind-numbing boredom of the day-to-day job of being a mother that scares me.

I’m also exploring why it’s so hard for me to be still. I most definitely have what I like to call busy-ism. I’ve christened this the Summer of Stillness and the mission is to have no work or study to-do list. To wake up in the morning and think “what will we do today?” rather than “what do I have to get done today?”. I also have things I’d like to write about in this stillness. Notes can be found dotted throughout my house with thoughts and ideas that pop into my head at the most random times (washing up and wiping bums being the two main times). I should add here that I know I’m extremely lucky to be able to take this time and to make these decisions and my heart breaks for every mother that has to either go back to work or stay at home when she’d rather be doing the other or a bit of both.

One of many thoughts I’ve had to write down before tiredness kills it

I’m starting a Masters in Primary Education through Hibernia College in September. It’s going to be full-on I’m told. I’m not sure if there’s going to be room in our life for my business. I want there to be but for there to be any hope of that I need to step back and see if I can put a better structure on things because as it stands there just isn’t enough space in our life for any more. My little man is going to be three by the time the summer is over. How is that possible? And I feel like I’ve barely stopped to be with Jodie since she was born. I’m not going to get this time back. As is the case when you have small children both myself and my husband have had to sacrifice things that we love to keep our little ship afloat but I don’t want us to lose ourselves in all of this busyness either.

Our Inca Trail honeymoon in May 2013 seems like such a long time ago

So as of next Monday (May 1st) I will be closing membership to my online courses. I will remain fully dedicated to those who are currently on the course or who sign up this coming week (during which I’m giving a €20 discount using the code FWBSUM). And it’s not that I will be completely gone from social media either. It’s just that I’ll be doing it on my terms. I’m thinking a lot less Snapchat and hopefully a bit more blogging (though not necessarily about exercise and healthy food). I need to not be answerable to anyone outside of my family for a while and get some breathing space.

I have great expectations of fun times on the beach this summer – let’s see how that goes!

While obviously this has been a post about me and my hectic life if you are reading this and you’re also a person who is prone to overloading themselves with to-do’s and busyness maybe you might also consider if there are ways that you can make a little bit more room in your life and give yourself a break.

Thank you so much to everyone who has come on my courses or shown support to me since I set up Fit with Bríd two years ago and I hope you all have a lovely summer.

Bríd

 

Happiness is your Perfect Body…..right?

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Every morning, since reaching my pre-pregnancy bodyweight and measurements, I jump out of bed and slip into my skinny jeans then skip down the stairs with my two little babes in tow ready to take on the day. Because my life is pretty perfect now….

Oh if only it were that simple. Reaching the size, weight or measurements that you consider to be your ideal does not result in instant happiness. Kids still get sick, bills still need to be paid, you still throw a child at your other half the minute he walks in the front door (and remember to say hello to each other about an hour later) and basically the world keeps spinning exactly as it did. But I will admit that, for me, the process of getting to this point has made me happier in myself. Maybe that’s because I don’t deprive myself food-wise (nor do I encourage any of my online participants to do so) or maybe it’s because I enjoy taking the time for myself that exercise and healthy eating require. If you’ve been following my post-pregnancy progress you’ll know that I started off on my 6-week online post-pregnancy plan and then went to on to do my 6-week online slim-down. I’ve also been doing a lot of other things since Jodie was born to help me feel good including yoga, meditation, therapy and just generally taking it a bit easier (which is NOT always easy for me).

Jodie’s Christening

It’s ok to want to get back to your pre-baby size, weight or shape but it’s not easy and it’s not for everybody as some new mothers just can’t be bothered and guess what? THAT’S OK TOO! There were days when I wondered if I was putting too much pressure on myself but when it comes to losing body fat I like to get it done, move on and not have it be something that I spend valuable time, energy or brain cells on. There are more important things in life.

Spending time with my babies is more important than worrying about my weight

After watching and hosting the fantastic film Embrace (which I did a vlog about previously), I almost decided not to do this post. So many women are at war with their bodies, believing that if they could make it look a certain way they would be happy. I hate the idea that me or my business would ever contribute to those feelings. But while that film exists to encourage women to love themselves no matter what (and I agree wholeheartedly with this) my business exists is to make it possible for every woman to look after her health and fitness no matter how busy her life is. It’s a strange concept for some women to get their head around but you can learn to accept yourself as you are while still wanting to look after yourself in a way that might bring about positive change.

If you’d like to learn more about my online courses or sign-up and join a great community of women already making positive changes to their lives then head over here.

Thanks for reading,

Bríd

Pregnancy Video – Week 37 – Update & Anxiety

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Hi Everyone,

Nearly at the end of week 37 and very much ready to be done now. Caring for and carrying a toddler around when you’re this pregnant is not much fun, especially when said toddler is smack bang in the middle of the terrible two’s and not fond of sleeping past 6am! Getting slightly anxious about managing two small children but I’m sure we’ll get into our groove fairly quickly. I’m all set with my buggy, hospital bag etc so all I need now is for baby to not hang about too long.

I’ve been busy putting together the January courses for the past couple of weeks. There will be two courses as follows:

  1. A 6-week online Post-Pregnancy course and
  2. A 6-week online General Health and Fitness course

I will have more details about each nearer to their launch time and if you’d like to be added to my mailing list so that you receive all of the details straight to your inbox then please add your details here.

No. of weeks pregnant: 37

Exercise: I’ve slowed right down now. I’m still walking 5km about five days a week, doing Pregnancy Yoga, some bodyweight and band-assisted resistance training as well as lots of flexibility work but I’ve officially stopped running for this pregnancy. I want to keep as active as possible but have no interest in feeling sore or stiff at this stage.

Food: I’ve been comfort eating a little for the last few weeks and I’ve talked about the reasons why in the video to go with this post. Still eating healthy, balanced main meals though and freezing lots of meals in preparation for the weeks post-pregnancy when I’ll have neither the time nor energy to put in the effort.

Bump is: nearly on my knees now!! It’s pulling on my mid-back a lot now so I’m getting my other half to give me regular massages to help with the tension. I also hope to start having pregnancy massages and reflexology from this week too.

Measurements: Starting to see a change in these now which I expected. I’m definitely losing some muscle tissue and it’s being replaced with body fat. Plenty of time to work on that afterwards and I’m looking forward to it. I will literally be the test case for my own post-pregnancy online course!

 Week 32This Week
Arm9.5"10"
Boobs35"35"
Waist31.532.5"
Bellybutton35"36.5"
Hips 38"38"
Thigh21"21.5"

As always if you have any questions or comments please mail me or you can find me on Facebook and Instagram at Fit with Bríd and Snapchat @mrskbomb.

Bríd

 

 

 

Pregnancy Video – Week 32 – Update & Gift Ideas for a 2nd time Mother

 

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Hi Everyone,

I’m half way through week 32 and very happy to be on the home straight. Not a major fan of the last few weeks but I just have to get over myself because baby needs a bit more cooking before it’s ready for the world! All good otherwise thankfully. In my video today I talked a little about some gift ideas for a second time mother. While, of course, all gifts are appreciated these are some of the things that I think would be helpful and are things that I often bring myself. I’m also talking about my online course plans for the future. Obviously I’m going to be taking a few weeks off after the baby arrives but the New Year is a busy time in the fitness world so I hope to be back then with two new online courses – a general population one where I will be looking at body image and mindset too and a post-pregnancy specific course to help new mothers get their strength and fitness back. I will be sending updates about these courses nearer to the time and if you’d like to be kept informed head over here.

No. of weeks pregnant: 32

Exercise: I started going to Pregnancy Yoga this week and really enjoyed it. I find it hard to slow down and quieten my mind so yoga is a good class for me. I’m also in the middle of teaching my second round of Pregnancy Fitness classes in Portlaoise and loving them too. In addition to these classes I’m walking 5km regularly with Frankie in the buggy and doing some circuits and interval training at home. I’m doing lots of flexibility work now too to make sure that I don’t get too tight and sore and run the risk of an injury.

Food: Definitely needing to snack more but trying to pick healthy options like Glenisk yogurt and home-made granola as well as bananas, mixed fruit and nuts/seeds and frozen orange juice ice-pops.

Bump is: feeling like it’s getting very big now but my measurements haven’t changed much. It seems to be a lot lower this time and I get a very uncomfortable feeling like I’m being suffocated when I so much as sit back on the couch. It’s making sleeping very difficult but I’m adjusting and let’s face it I’m not going to be sleeping much in 8 weeks anyway so maybe it’s best to get used to it now!

Anything else: I’ve gone into preparation mode now. I’m getting all the little niggly jobs in the business, the house and life in general done gradually. I’ve got my accounts done early (which NEVER happens) and am going to be putting together the plans for my January courses over the coming month. I’m preparing freezer meals and trying to get a few things sorted with Frankie like soothers and sleeping arrangements as well as scrubbing each room one by one.

My measurements:

Really surprised to see that these haven’t changed a lot more. It definitely feels like I’m getting a lot bigger but maybe it’s just because everything is getting so squashed on the inside!

 Week 32This Week
Arm9.5"10"
Boobs35"35"
Waist31.532.5"
Bellybutton35"36.5"
Hips 38"38"
Thigh21"21.5"

As always if you have any questions or comments please mail me or you can find me on Facebook and Instagram at Fit with Bríd and Snapchat @mrskbomb.

Bríd

Pregnancy Video – Week 23 Update & Weight

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Today I’m posting my second pregnancy update video. If you haven’t had a chance to check out the first one you can find it here. In this video I’m talking about my gratitude for a smooth run so far and also weight gain during pregnancy. So many women that I come in contact with either through personal training or online have told me how they have struggled or are struggling with weight gain during pregnancy. For some it’s that they were gaining too much excess weight from eating unhealthily and not getting enough, if any, exercise. For others it was that they felt they were too focused on how much they were gaining throughout and didn’t enjoy their pregnancy enough as a result. This isn’t a ‘what’s right and what’s wrong’ kind of post just a little advice about your mindset in relation to pregnancy weight gain and about keeping as fit and healthy as you possibly can for your own sake. It’s not intended to offend anyone and so I really hope that it doesn’t.

No of weeks pregnant: 23

Currently feeling: Very good, no complaints at all thankfully!

Exercise: Going well so far. I’m probably not going to continue to run for much longer as detailed in the video because of the pressure I feel on my bladder but I’ll be (fast) walking the roads for as long as I possibly can. I’m also doing interval training workouts, resistance training, Pilates and Yoga.

Food: Maintaining a well balanced diet at the minute. Being particularly good 5-6 days per week and then having a day or two where I’m more flexible which usually means eating out or eating cake!

Bump is: Getting a lot bigger and very active. Jumping from one position to another constantly.

Anything else: Really looking forward to my next scan which will be in a couple of weeks. We’re considering finding out what we’re having this time but still not 100% sure about it. Also now starting to consider the things we need to do to get Frankie prepared for the new baby such as moving him into his own bed. Even though he’ll be two in a fortnight I still feel like he’s a new baby. Where has the time gone?!

My Measurements:

As I said in my first post I’m not weighing myself during this pregnancy like I did with Frankie. It bothered me too much last time and there really is no need to watch the scales once you are eating a healthy, balanced diet and getting regular exercise. I take my measurements because I find it interesting to see what’s happening to my body but again won’t be getting too hung up on them. I was surprised by how little they changed this time but I’m sure they will be a lot different next time.

 Week 32This Week
Arm9.5"10"
Boobs35"35"
Waist31.532.5"
Bellybutton35"36.5"
Hips 38"38"
Thigh21"21.5"

Please contact me to find out more information about:

  • joining the (free) private Pregnancy Fitness Group on Facebook
  • joining my Buggy Bootcamp class in Portlaoise on a Wednesday morning
  • joining my forthcoming Pregnancy Fitness Classes in Portlaoise (date and time TBD)

You can also find out more about my Super Six-week Slim-down here. This is my current online course and is running all summer. It’s a course designed for busy women who want to improve their health and fitness without fuss and is particularly popular with new mothers and brides-to-be.

Hope you find this helpful and as always feel free to contact me if you have any comments or questions.

Brídx

Pregnancy Video – Nutrition

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Hi Everyone,

I’ve made a short video to talk about some of my tips for nutrition during pregnancy. As discussed in the video, nutrition is never as important as it is during pregnancy when you’re growing a new person. Here’s a list of my top 10 foods during pregnancy:

Eggs – Couldn’t stand them during trimester one but since that passed I am now living one them. So easy and they contain a range of vitamins, minerals, proteins and good fats.

Bananas – A great go-to snack that’s always good for keeping your energy levels up when you’re on the good.

Wholegrain Bread – A great source of slow releasing energy. I try to stick to two slices max per day and usually have them late morning or for lunch.

Salmon – Great source of omega 3 and helps to promote cell growth for you and baby.

Sweet Potato – Loaded with vitamins A,B and C. They cook quickly and are a great carbohydrate for dinner.

Natural Yogurt – Great for calcium and with my next choice, mixed berries, make a lovely healthy snack.

Berries – Strawberries, blackberries, blueberries and raspberries. This time of year is perfect for them too. I add them to porridge, yogurt and even mix them with a little dark chocolate for a late night snack. They help the body to absorb iron too.

Almonds – I love all nuts and seeds in general but almonds are my favourite. I love sliced almonds with my yogurt and berries or just a handful of them as a snack when I’m on the go. They contain iron too which is really important during pregnancy.

Avocados – Full of good fats. I advise sticking to a half avocado per day but these make a great addition to a sale or alongside a burger for dinner.

Water – Ok not actually food but still deserves to make the list. Staying hydrated is really important during pregnancy particularly if you’re pregnant during the summer months. I start the day with luke warm water and lemon and I always carry a nice Bobble bottle with me throughout the day.

Below are links to any websites I mentioned in the video:

NHS Foods to Avoid during Pregnancy

First 100 Days 

Safe Food Healthy Eating during Pregnancy

Hope you find this helpful. I have started a private pregnancy fitness group on Facebook. It’s an informal group and there’s no fee to join. If you’d like to join us please mail me brid@fitwithbrid.ie or you can contact me through Facebook and Instagram.

Bríd

Fit Mind – Gratitude When I Most Needed It

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Practicing gratitude has been the big buzz topic over the past few months. I’ll be honest and say that even though I recognised the merit in it, it didn’t quite click for me. While I understood that you need to be grateful for all that you have in your life in order to appreciate all that you want or think you want it just wasn’t a very helpful tool for me in my day-to-day life. I tried practising it by writing down what I was grateful for each day (as advised by all the gratitude gurus) but that lasted a week and then of course I beat myself up for not sticking with it. I had sort of put myself down as just not a spiritual enough person to really be able to grasp gratitude.

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That was until we lost our lovely Lady a few weeks ago. Anyone who knows us knows that she was our first baby and we loved her so much. If you’re not an animal lover you just can’t comprehend how much it is possible to love the life out of your pet but we really did. We got her 8 years ago as a puppy and when she was about a year old we broke up. For the next year we shared her, himself having her Monday to Friday because he had the bigger garden and me having her at the weekends. No joke, we did the half way point drop off and everything. Then one day when she was staying with me she ran out in front of a car. For 24 hours we didn’t know if she was going to make it because she had tyre marks on her stomach and the vet feared that she was bleeding internally. Thankfully she only had a broken leg but it was an awful time and in nursing her back to health we managed to get our shit together and here we are now almost 3 years married with Frankie.

So you’re probably thinking what has gratitude got to do with this? Didn’t the dog die?

I used always cry at the very thought of losing Lady and when it did happen those feelings of sadness were ready to overwhem me but something clicked in me when I saw her for the last time and instead of wallowing in the grief and self-pity I started thinking of all the things I could be grateful for. The lovely times we had with her, obviously, but also the fact that she didn’t suffer from a long illness which is something we had always said we’d have hated for her. The fact that we had Frankie before she died was a massive help emotionally as if we hadn’t had him to focus on it would have been harder. Getting to say goodbye to her was also on the list along with lots of other things too.

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Since that gratitude came to me it seems to be sticking around. I’m finding I’m able to turn my thought process around a lot over the past few weeks and I really hope it lasts because it makes for a much happier mind, a fitter mind I suppose. I know it’s not easy for everyone to really get on board with the concept of gratitude but now that I have I’d love to be able to spread it around. It certainly doesn’t make every minute of every day perfect but it does help. So I just thought I’d share that little insight with you all and hopefully it helps someone else even in a small way.

Brídx

Pregnancy Posture & Stretches

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Growing and carrying a new little person is hard work and often results in musclar imbalances within the body which can cause soreness, stiffness and general discomfort. As if a pregnant woman hasn’t enough to worry about with feeling tired and a little anxious too. The weight of a pregnant woman’s bump causes a shift in posture and the following can often happen:

  • Hips tilt forward as the bump grows outwards
  • An increased curve in the lower back, known as Lordosis, happens as a result
  • The hip flexor muscles (joining the front of your thighs to your hip area) can then feel tight and the glutes (bum) become weak and stretched
  • If there is an increase in the size and weight of the breasts the shoulders can become rounded, known as Kyphosis
  • Head tilts forward as a result

Pregnancy Pilates and Yoga classes can help to address these imbalances and alleviate the discomfort felt. Pregnant women who sit a lot for work should ensure that they have an ergonomic workstation (set up correctly and specifically for their needs) and that they take regular breaks to stand up, walk around and stretch.

I’ve put together a short video clip of stretches that can help. Practice as often as possible, holding each stretch for 20-30 seconds while taking deep breaths. Be careful not to push too deeply into each stretch as the hormone Relaxin is present in a pregnant woman’s body and can result in soften ligaments and joints. These stretches can also be helpful post pregnancy when these areas are still feeling the effects.

Hope you find this helpful,

Brídx

5 Tips for Making or Breaking Habits in 2016

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As the New Year looms and the excess of Christmas starts to set it many of us are thinking of ways to improve ourselves and our lives in the coming year. Whether it’s quitting an unhealthy habit like smoking or starting a new one like exercising there are certain things you can do to help break or make a habit that lasts. I gave up drinking in 2015 and here are some of my top tips:

Get Rid

This might sound obvious but if you are trying to break a habit then get whatever it is you are trying to quit out of the house. Completely. You might have to put up with protests from others in the house (particularly if you’re trying to get rid of junk food and the kids catch you!) but explain to them why you’re doing what you’re doing and how much you’d appreciate their help. This could be your chance to change everyone’s habits for the better.

Write It Down

Sit down and make a list of the reasons why you want to break a bad habit. It’s also helpful to ask yourself honest questions about why you think you developed your particular habit. What addition has it been to your life? Most likely none but it’s best not to ignore your fears about giving it up. For example many people believe that they won’t be able to relax without a cigarette or drink. If that’s you then dig deep and question how true your beliefs about your habit really are.

Put this list, as well as a little declaration about what you want to make or break, and stick them up somewhere that you have to pass every single day.

 

Treat Yourself

Often the habits we wish to break are those we consider to be a way of rewarding ourselves. If so then you should decide how you might do this in a healthier or more positive way. For example if you decide that you’re going to eat more healthily in 2016 but food was always your way of treating yourself then replace it with clothes, music, a beauty product etc that you’d like instead. Your new treat doesn’t have to be expensive but it does have to feel like a treat to you.

Support

Finding support when breaking a habit is so important. You may find that some of your friends are making similar decisions about their own habits for the New Year. If you’re going to get fit and your best friend wants to do also then why not pair up and keep each other motivated? But if you don’t have someone else in the same boat then you may need to look a bit further afield. That’s where the internet can help because there are chatrooms, message boards and private facebook groups for just about everything these days. Connect with people on the same journey as you and you may well find you make some new friends too.

Just Keep Swimming

Keep it up. Even when you don’t want to. Even when something happens that upsets you and all you want to do is run back to your habit that comforted you so well in the past. The feeling will pass eventually and when you’ve made it through and changed your default response you will feel really great about yourself. You will. I promise.

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Good Luck!

Brídx

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